The Importance of #treatyourselftuesday & #takecareofyourselftuesday

Or, #treatyourselfthursday and #takecareofyourselfthursday, which ever you really prefer; there just so happens to be more hashtags for Tuesday on Instagram. These simple hashtags that you see on pictures of freshly manicured nails or some legs propped up in a bath full of bubbles are so much more important than getting likes on Instagram; for some people, the represent something they have to do in order to just keep going with their lives.

I suffer from major depression. If you looked at me, you would never know it, but it’s something I struggle with everyday. A lot of it stems from growing up around people who were focused on outward beauty. I felt like I had to look a certain way, act a certain way, and like certain things for people to like me, especially guys. I didn’t realize I had a mental illness until I was having a mental break down every two weeks when I started college. Even then, I didn’t seek out help. I was so focused on making others happy that I let the things I loved slip away from me; I was to the point that if a car was in my lane, I wasn’t going to swerve out of the way.

I’ve been seeing someone for almost two years and the medication I’m on helps me eat and sleep; it helps me not slip back into what I was. I do have my bad days, and those are the days that I make myself get up. I take a shower, I do my hair and make-up, and I find something to wear that makes me feel good about myself in that very moment. I find something I really enjoy doing and I do that for a few hours to help lift my mood; if I don’t force myself to start the day, I’ll stay in my pajamas and I’ll move from the bed to the couch all day.

I believe taking care of yourself mentally is such an important thing when thinking about your inner self and beauty. Yeah, you can do your make-up and physically look beautiful, but if you look sad and feel sad, then others are going to pick up on that. My favorite things to do usually include make-up, reading, video games, and snacking, but I found a few lists on Pinterest that I want to start trying out and share with you guys!

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Self Care from Study Smarter

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Thirteen Thoughts on 50 Ways to Practice Self-Care

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Printable 31 Ways to Have a Better Day

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Buzz feed’s List of 25 Things To Do When You’re Feeling Down

There are so many ways to take care of yourself in a world that screams for you to think about everyone else. Don’t; Please, think about yourself and the things that make you happy. This is your life and you deserve to be happy every single minute of it. So, enjoy your day!

Be(you)tiful

As a woman, I’ve heard that so much growing up. In fact, I’ve heard that so much that I have deep psychological problems. The people closest to me would tell me to be myself but then turn around and tell me things like, “boys don’t like girls with pony tails” or “boys don’t like girls with THAT MUCH make up.” Most of my high school days were spent with head aches from too long of hair (which I do miss my lucious locks) and barely any make up. I hid my video games from people and became a hard core athlete (which also miss). I emersed myself into church because boys loved girls who loved Jesus. That’s what I was told anyway. 

I wasn’t myself. I was battling depression and didn’t even know it because I lived in the kind of place that didn’t really accept that kind of thing (being an athlete helped me fight my illness.) I had become depressed when I became someone who wasn’t me. People saw me as the girl who was incredibly smart, who was captain of the basketball team, and prom queen. I had long brown hair that everyone noticed and loved. In reality, I was a girl who just wanted to read, write, play video games and go to school. I loved sports and being social, but it wasn’t always me. 

Now, I’m open about who I am and I love it. I play video games and I read and I love make up now! These are a few of my favorite things, actually. I’m so in love with who I am that when I tell someone “you’re the most beautiful when you’re yourself”, I actually mean it. 

The most beautiful you can be is by being yourself. You like video games, pony tails, and no make up? Then go for it. You like messy buns, yoga pants, and nude colors? Own it. You like hipster glasses, colored hair, and skirts? Then rock it!

Inner and outer beauty isn’t about what the world tells us is beautiful. True beauty is magnifying the kindness and love from within. It’s about finding your passions and pursuing them whole heartedly. It’s about loving people with no strings attached. True beauty is about being who you are today and being better tomorrow.